We live in a culture where doing what you’re told is the norm. We are told what schools we should go to, what we should or shouldn’t do with our lives. We should aspire to own a large house, have a family, a great career, have no debt, live in the moment all while having a large bank account and keep the cycle going. It is interesting how we spend so much time working toward pleasing everyone and trying to meet these imaginary standards set by society. We work tirelessly to be everything that everyone wants us to be.
What if I told you it doesn’t have to be that way?
What if I told you, you can be happy without striving to meet societies thoughts on what you should do with your life. What if I told you, you can be happy without going to that art school your mom insisted you must go to in order to have a future. What if it is possible to have a future that you are passionate and head over heels in love with? No, I am not talking about a future husband or love interest. I am talking about your life. That’s right, your LIFE.
Authenticity. It’s often used to describe things like baseball cards or a type of food. We hear people say ‘oh that’s authentic’ all the time. Authentic items are placed high up on the shelf where no one will touch them, or they’re the restaurant with the go to food because you know it will be amazing. Authenticity is admirable, desired and wanted. So why aren’t we living our entire lives this way?
Being real, or authentic in our lives is so crucial. We will never exceed our own expectations by being someone we are not. Yes, you read that right. Our OWN expectations. We do not need to reach anyone’s expectations but our OWN. That’s the first step in authenticity. Set your own standards, your own bar to hit and shatter YOUR glass ceilings. We are not built to be uniform and identical. It is human nature to be different from one another, so why are we not embracing this?
Authenticity in our life rolls into many areas, but one area I want to talk about is your career. Here is a fun fact to think about, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics (2016), the average amount of time spent working is
7.99 hours a day.
Considering most people stay awake for around 16 hours a day, that is half of your day spent working. Why do I bring this up? Well let’s think about it.
If I love art, and every moment I get a chance I am drawing and bringing creations and characters alive, but 9 hours a day I am working at the local tax preparers office filing paperwork because it pays the bills, how happy can I truly be? If I am SETTLING for a job to pay the bills, but I am not being true to my soul and entire being, how fulfilling will my life be for me?
I am not saying if you don’t like your job there won’t be areas in your life that are fulfilling, but that is where the statistics mentioned come into play. If majority of your time is spent doing something that is miserable, or even just okay, that sets your mindset about your ENTIRE day. If you are not waking up excited to go to work each day, then how fulfilling is your life? We have one life. We are not guaranteed tomorrow. Don’t you want to live your own life passionately and authentic? I know I do.