Are you taking care of yourself?
You may be thinking, yes I do, I eat, I have good hygiene and I am always ready for the day.
What if I told you, that is only part of self-care? So are you practicing full self-care?
Likely the answer is no.
We tend to go through life in an attempt to please others and we put ourselves and our well-being on the back burner. I know you are thinking, ‘yes I do, but’ and then that but is followed by some excuse as to why you can’t take care of yourself. I know this is true. How do I know? This is an area that I have had to personally attack and allow myself room for self-care. I have been in the store looking at shoes, that were even on sale, then walked over and found the kid’s shoes were on sale too. Guess who got shoes? Guess who didn’t get shoes? Yeah that’s right, my 4 kids got shoes and I turned down my pair with the EXCUSE that they NEEDED them and I did not.
This is me being incredibly transparent. One of my children needed shoes, the other 3? No. They did not. There was NO reason I could not have left the store with 2 pairs, one for me, and one for the child who needed them. Instead I made an excuse. This is a minor instance where I put others over myself. I have gotten a LOT better so this instance is okay. However, it was a lot of work to get there.
Take a moment and think about your life. Where are you at? Are you happy? TRULY happy, not convincing yourself society and people surrounding you say you should be happy so you are. What does happy look like for you?
Take another moment. Think about the last thing you did for yourself? No, I am not saying you went to the grocery store kid free (yes I know it feels like a vacation, see above my four children, but it’s not). I am talking about you went and got that pedicure you’ve been wanting. You got your hair done at a salon, not out of a box in your kitchen. When was that?
Self-care. You cannot take care of others while you are running on empty. You NEED to take care of yourself to be the best you possible for others. This is all true, but on the flip side of the coin, the side that has NOTHING to do with taking care of others, because this is SELF-CARE, I want you to look at YOU for a moment, yes be SELFISH. It is OKAY!
You need to practice self-care, because
YOU ARE WORTH IT!
You DESERVE to get your hair done, your nails done or even go out to dinner for more than a quick drive through. I am not saying you need to do this all the time, but you NEED to do it for you!!! Self-care is an essential key to happiness. Don’t cut your happiness short.