Burning, passionately authentically living your life.
That is what this living is about. Finding your calling and living it to the best of your ability. What is life without being consumed with passion. When we think of passion, we tend to only attribute this to our love life. Many times this passion gets lost in the other areas of our lives. Living passionately is the key to living a happy and fulfilling life. However, most of us can’t find that passion. Once a flame that may have been burning brightly within, is now just a flicker of light in the darkness. Society, family and friends will slowly suffocate your burning flame into nothing if you are not careful. It happens. We are human. We get stuck in a place of existence. What happens when this fire goes out?
This fire as I am sure you are aware is your deepest passions in life. For each person it is different. My passions are helping people, writing and speaking at events. A friend of mines passion is working with business owners and pouring herself into the southern belle lifestyle. This is who we are, our fires burn bright, but they weren’t always this way, mine was not always bright and consuming. There was a point where my fire was also barely a glowing ember.
Finding your passion can be tricky and overwhelming. How many times have you heard, ‘I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up!’? I can imagine that you have heard it frequently, as I know I have. Many times this statement is used by a person whose flame has died out, or is slowly receding. They are losing site, or maybe they have lost site, of their deepest passions. So if you have come to this place in life, where you can no longer see the flames, it is time to start digging.
Digging deep down into our souls is where we find out deepest desires and our passions. I am going to go over 4 steps to building the flame.
Remember, Reflect, Act, Repeat
How do we use this to find the passion in our lives and how does it work? Well first we need to remember. Think back to a time where you did something you LOVED. Not just like ‘oh that was fun’ but you could consume yourself with day in and day out. Something that you find yourself doing with other, or for others, that you could have done day in and day out. Remember this. In this moment it may not feel as exciting as it did then, that’s ok, but remember all of these moments and write them down.
Now we spend time reflecting on these times. Go through your list, however long, and write all the emotions, feelings, and thoughts you had when you were doing these things. What made you love it? What did you do during this time? Write down all the details you can remember about each thing.
Now we are at the act portion of our process. Go through the list, make EACH ONE happen. This is where excuses come into play majority of the time. Do not fall into the excuse trap. Find a way to make them happen. When you are doing these things, write down what you’re feeling. Does it feel the same as it did? Is it more or less exciting and desirable? Divulge yourself into these areas you chose.
Now if you haven’t received the clarity you were looking for, repeat the process. If think you know what you’re passionate about and you’re ready to ignite your flame again, but aren’t exactly sure what to do next. Let’s chat because living isn’t really living if your fire isn’t burning wildly.